My father died this morning, after a fall, then a shortish time in a skilled nursing facility,\u00a0 a problem there, and a brief hospitalization, but at home.\u00a0 He was almost 102.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 For most of my life, we had an extremely difficult relationship, based on very scanty and irregular contact, but that’s not something I want to talk about right now.\u00a0\u00a0 If ever.\u00a0\u00a0 What is important to me is that while I was on a book tour some years ago, when he had quit driving but was able to get around otherwise, one stop was in the city where he lived.\u00a0 And I invited him to the reading\/signing, and then had dinner with him and one of my half-sisters, who had driven him.\u00a0\u00a0 I can only hope it gave him as much resolution and peace as it gives me now.<\/p>\n
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As we were not close, I have no idea how this will affect my writing.\u00a0\u00a0 Obviously I can write a short blog entry.\u00a0 But I was impaired for almost a year after my mother died (of course I was also coping with a grief-stricken autistic kid at the time–and my mother and I were close.)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 And the length and depth of the strain between us was such that it may throw me for a loop despite\/because of our not being close.<\/p>\n
So things may be somewhat chaotic on the writing front for a time.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 At least this time I don’t have a contract with a hard deadline staring me in the face…I have time to work through things and get my head straight again before beginning another long work.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 My half-sisters will be making the arrangements for everything–they live much closer to where he lived than I do.<\/p>\n
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